the journey and destination are equal
It’s been said that life is all about the journey and not the destination.
In my almost 18 years of helping people organize their homes, I’ve seen that it’s equally about both. When we are feeling stuck, a good home organizing and cleaning up can get the inner cobwebs and obstacles to break free from our thoughts and ways of doing things. It may not feel like it but we are constantly moving forward, even though it seems like things might be circling back around over and over. Have you noticed you may be having experiences with the same life lesson? Does it seem like no matter how hard you try to level up, you stay right where you’re at? There can be a multitude of reasons for this, and in my experience, mine keep coming back around because I haven’t fully extracted my part of the equation.
Get out of your own way, they say. Leap and the net will appear. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
All the self-help books and positive quotes on Instagram could make someone go insane trying to figure out the how-to. I’m not trying to stay stuck. I don’t want to travel the same roads I’ve always been on. Recently, I let go of a beautiful red dress that I’d been holding onto for 5 years. “Someday it’ll fit the way I want it to,” I would tell myself every time I looked at it in my closet. I recently donated it because I was tired of waiting, and equally, I think the dress was tired of giving me pep talks.
Our things are meant to support us. Most of my clients are buried under their belongings and lack the spontaneity and lightheartedness to see they can change the direction of their lives. Now, the question is, how do I take my own advice? I’m trying to figure it out right along with you. The older we get, the more the internal clutter can weigh us down, which is why living in a clutter-free home is so important.
Recently, I helped a woman tidy her kitchen. She said she was in a horrible accident in 2018 which left her unable to work. She was a personal trainer and personal chef, and both careers put too much pressure on her spine, which causes her excruciating pain. She’s had 2 surgeries on her neck and spine and is slowly getting better. She said she’s going to start a new career in real estate and is starting to exercise again. The one thing that stuck with me is that she intuitively knew that she has to organize her entire living space before she will feel like she can go back into the workforce with a clear mindset. Most of my female clients get this inner nudge when they desire to be better mothers and business owners. I wish there was a mathematical equation to prove that it works. For everyone I know, they have to do it for themselves so as to understand the profundity of it.
How can the journey ever outweigh the destination? How can we fail to see the importance of our daily and moment-by-moment steps forward? Both have equal value and both depend on one another for their existence. One thing my client said that really made sense, she knows all of her experiences, the good and the bad, are for the evolvement of her journey and destination.
Happy Tidying, Everyone.